Do you ever regret making plans with someone?
Because that's the dilemma I am in right now. I told an old friend that I would meet up with her at Starbucks at 12 to catch up, and now I am REALLY regretting it.
This old friend I have know since middle school... we use to hangout all the time, and then we lost contact after she had her baby in high school. We then got back into contact and we use to hangout ALL the time.
She was a bridesmaid in my wedding, and we did pretty much everything together.
Until the day my world was rocked with the news my Husband wanted a divorce.
I know normally you would lean on your friends the most in such a drastic time in ones life, but she worked for my FIL, so it was a little awkward. She is the kind of friend that would put my business out there for them and to let them know how hard of a time I was having with the divorce. Or she would relay messages back and forth about their family to me and personally I didn't want to hear it. I would like to think that she didn't do this stuff on purpose, but she is one that likes the drama and likes to be in the center of EVERYTHING.
So I distanced myself from the whole situation, and started hanging out with my old girlfriends. After I made this decision my life despite the whole divorce seemed like a big relief off my shoulders. No more drama, no more relaying information back to them. I was free, to enjoy my 20's the way that I should have.
Back to this year and a big 3 years later, I received a random phone call from her at work, she started crying hysterical on the phone to me about how her marriage is over, and that her husband was cheating on her blah blah blah.. and that when he got back from sea that they would probably get a divorce.
I gave her my sympathy and left it at that.
I found her husbands email address on the ship, and emailed him asking what the problem was because I just received a phone call from his wife crying saying he was cheating on her.
(I only did this because I know how the old friend is and is VERY dramatic over every situation)
He responded and told me that he wasn't cheating on her that there was a girl on his ship that he was friends with (normally I would totally say cheating, but if you knew this guy you would know he isn't that kind). I said okay. Just wanted to make sure nothing else was going on.
Well the day before Thanksgiving I ran into her husband walking into Target, we talked said Happy Holidays and went our separate ways.
I just had a bug up my butt the other day, and decided to text old friend to see if everything was still going good between her and her husband since I had ran into him the other day.
We text back and forth for like an hour and then she invited me to go get Starbucks on Friday, I said sure.....
Which leads us to today, I am really having second thoughts about going to meet up with her. I don't want to be pulled back into the drama of her life. I adore her husband and kids, they were seriously like my second family, but I just don't think I can handle her right now.
So the question really is......
To go? Or not to go?